Lets set the picture.
My son's one of many cousins, on my husband's side, is a major bully to only him. This cousin is 11 years old and my son is 6 years old. Although we only live 10 mins apart from my husband's sister, we only see them on occasions, because of the son.

The problem:

My son is scared to make his cousin upset. But at the sametime, worships the ground he walks on. (I don't understand it) constantly asks to visit him, but once there, this boy verbally abuses my son. He calls him idiot, tells him if he makes him mad he's going to kick his balls and make them explode. I mean, abuse my son never hears. 

The bigger problem:

The parents are clueless about how there son is. Or in denial. The won't acknowledge, that there is something terribly wrong with this child. He has issues.

The Solution:

My cousin told me to watch "The hand that rocks the Cradle" and do the same thing to him as the nanny did to the boy" (pull him aside and threaten him)

FYI: I have talked to this boy countless of times and even yelled at him infront of his parents. This boy doesn't fear anything. I even had to pull him off of my son, while he was over him an verbally abusing him. While, he's yelling let go of me.

What do I do with this delimma? dis-own his cousin, his aunt? Pay for a phsycologist? What do I do?

 

Has your hubby talked to his sister about it. Maybe if he talked to her she would listen and do something about it. I wouldnt know what to do. If talking doesnt help, then I would be forced to keep him away from my son. Does he do this at your own home. If he does, the minute they walk into the house I would make it very clear to EVERYONE that, that behavior will not be accepted. If he continues, then I would ask them to leave. If he only does it at their house then I would stop going over there. Maybe if they see that you wont come around until it is stopped maybe they will start doing something about it. The scary thing is if he does this to your son (his own cousin) what could he be capable of doing to other children.

I hope things work out.......By the way, welcome to MommyTalk!

Thank you for the welcome Heather. My sons birthday is coming up so hopefully that will be the last time we see them for a while.

That's probably for the best!