Highly debated topic of conversation....

To spank or not to spank. Time outs, groundings, the naughty chair.

 I wanna know how we discipline our children.

I actually didn't vote in the poll because you can only choose one answer, and we use a whole variety of things.

When the kids are being whiny, fighting, etc, we separate them and send them each into their rooms to cool down.  Most of the time it is just to allow them to get themselves under control, and they are allowed to draw, listen to music, look at books, etc, to calm themselves down.  On occasion we will have time-outs where there are no toys, books, music, etc- just time spent thinking about what they were doing/not doing.

When we are having major defiance issues over rules that they are familiar with, we do use a swat on the butt.

Also, they know that if they are caught lying, using bad language intentionally (knowing it's a bad word and continuing to say it anyway) or extreme sassiness, they will get a drop of "hot sauce" (aka mild taco sauce) on their tongue.

Also, if they are fighting over a toy, book, etc and things are escalating instead of getting resolved, I will take that item and put it in "time-out" for the rest of the day.  Similarly, if we ask them to do something and they deliberately ignore us, whatever they are doing/playing with (toys, books, movies, etc) are removed for the remainder of the day.

Discipline is definitely still a work in progress here.  It really is about finding what works for each child (every child is different!) and what works for a particular situation and then sticking with it.  The most important thing is following through with whatever you say you're going to do. 

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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I use to spank but dont anymore cause I feel my kids are too big. The biggest punishment is removing all electronics. That just kills both my kids. And I do believe spare the rod, spoil the child. I believe wholeheartdly with spanking a child but not to the point of abuse.

we spank and do time out. i didnt want to spank but when he gets so worked up and wont listen to a damn thing you are saying a quick spank usally snaps him out of it enough to pay attention. i just started using time out again the first time i tried it i guess he was to young now he knows that when you put him in time out he is in trouble. now we give him warnings that if he does something hes not supposed to or continues doing something we told him not to he will get a spanking or be put in time out his response is usally no spanking yet hehe yet is his new word to end almost everything with.

I put my vote in for spank but we use other things too.  And when I say spank, i mean a tap on the bottom.  gabriel is only 16 months, so that is all he needs to get him in order right now.  He is in difiance mode though and "NO" is pretty much the top word in my vocabulary right now!  I try to explain things and somethings he understands and some he does not. He only gets a pop when he know better and I am sure he knows better, if it's a work in progress it's another talk and "NO"  A loud stern voice right now works better than most anything.

we don't spank... just don't believe in it, but i use the naughty step and for my older one we use the good 'ole corner. She hates it...

Granted my kids are older so most of these do not apply anymore.  It totally depends on the situation and what it calls for.  Timeouts never worked here.  So you want me to sit here and think about it - HUMPH I will just think of a different way to try to do it again and not get i trouble.

My main thing now is take video games, tv and cell phone away.  That is a KILLER.  I do believe in spanking - not beating there IS a difference.  And when it calls for it by all means - and I really think that is what is wrong with the world today not enough kids get spanked, one good swat goes a LONG ways.

 

We start with "the talk".  I try to reason with her and explain what is going on, why we shouldn't do whatever it is...  Sometimes that's enough.  But since she's 2.5 yo, that doesn't always do the trick.  If the talk isn't enough, I raise my voice.  That usually results in her saying "hug, I need hug." and she straightens up.  If there is still a problem, we do a few swats on the tush(which she can barely feel through the diaper).  After the tears dry up and she's had hugs and reassurance, she's fine. 

The sad thing is, I had to do this last night while we out shopping, but I made sure I was in the car.  I don't want to be the mom caught on security tape spanking her kid and end up with charges pressed against me.... 

We used to do time-outs but lately loss of priveleges has been working a lot better.  Usually threatening that she'll go to bed without any stories does the trick.  Also sometimes her favorite toys will get a time-out so she can't play with them, etc.

we do lotsa differnt things to disipline spanking a last resort...but it happens.

 

When I first starting doing the role of mom I told myself that I would not spank. Well we kept on having kids and it kept on gettnig harder to the point where they would notl isten. We used too spank them on the butt but because the time out would not work. I tried to talk to them eye to eye but that did not work. So that is why the spanking came to place. They listen and teach the other siblings to listen also. Ofcouse the spanking is not the type of brusing its the small light spank on the butt and thats it. Once they start growing up all that is going to have to stop. There is no way I am going to listen to someone telling me how to discipline my kids, If I did then I would have them runing all over me.

What age are you supposed to start disciplining children. My daughter is 8 months old now and im just starting to try and teach her the concept of no. its hard but im trying to stay consistant. i cant imagine the day that i might have to spank her, it must be so hard. any suggestions people?

I know that they definitely don't recommend spanking that young- they don't understand why you're doing that or what's going on.  The best thing to do right now is what you are doing- be consistant in letting her know when something is not ok, and then a little distraction goes a long way.  After you tell her no about something, try to redirect her to something else.  At that age, it is a lot of work because it's just the repetition, but hang in there.  She'll have it figured out soon.

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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I think a big part of discipline is the tone of voice you use.  If you are talking to your child with your every thing is fine voice they don't  always get that they are in trouble or that something is wrong.  Laghing and giggling while telling your child no doesn't mean no to them.  I also think if they are old enough to do something that you don't want them to do or that is just wrong to do than they are old enough to be taught not to.  Even during the first year, my daughter got her first pat of the diaper at 6 months ( only a pat on the diaper) she was throwing herself in my arms and I told her no, she stopped looked at me and started doing it again, she knew what I said to her and understood, so I gave her a firm pat on the diaper and she stopped.  There is a correct way to discipline and if done correctly and consistantly your children will catch on quickly.