how do i tell the woman that has loved my child that shes fired??

i have had personal babysitters from the get go, and here in a small town they are very hard to come by, but are they truely the best??? Yes she loves him, but she is his only interaction during the day. We go visiting and he shy's away from new people could we be causing this reaction by by not letting him expirence more with other people and children?

 But how do i say YOUR FIRED?? 

 Update:

So i do understand the love can move mountains but, this is the lady i employ. I am not feeling that he is getting the TLC he deserves, I get calls at work asking to drop him off at my place of business a half an hour early. Then there are the days off...they go to some doctor specialist at least 3-4 times a month that I get a days notice of. Or that he is so hungry when I pick him up he cries the whole way home saying bite, bite, along with drinking a gallon of fluids. And on top of that all is asking for a raise! These are some of the concerns that I have. Now this picture paints a horriable picture of the person i leave my little ones with, now here is where the love that she has kicks in, she would do anything for them, she calls them her grandbabies. She said she would watch my children until they were driving their own cars!! Now what?? im so confused! 

Firing might suggest she did something wrong.  It is time to start thinking about pre-school,  word it that way.  Give her plenty of notice and if you think she would be a great match with another family, suggest your babysitter.

If you still have bad feeling why not suggest some activities for her to take your son- 

I totally agree with Susan!  You don't want to burn any bridges in case you need a night out with the hubby and want to call on her again for babysitting. But wording it as moving into a different stage in the development of your child will make it sound better than just letting her go.  Good luck. 

I dont see why you have to let her go  at all   Sign kiddle up  for activity or two  and you and or siteer take your child ... Seems you are suggesting shooting self, child and sitter in foot and starting by saying this woman LOVES your child is like the most priceless  attribute of a gem of a sitter .. You Never need worry she would on purpous harm your baby... but give best care  besides you ...

I hav to say I'd go with mommy and mom2gaberiel, there is no scence in keeping her on if you wont be needing her anymore, but it would be nice if she could still visit with the babe.

It doesnt say shes not still needed  its about interaction w other kids  not about no longer needing a sitter ..

have you spoken to your sitter bout ALL your concerns? if you haven't then you need to do this 1st. have someone go w/ you to pick up children and have them take them home while you stay and talk w/ sitter, always w/out children round, not just in another room. tell her your job is complaining bout the short notice of days off, say to her "is there possibly a way the docs can give you 3 days or more notice?" then address the shyness. can she go to the library for storytime? or the park? or even to the shopping centers. last, the hunger. offer to send some snacks and juice boxes. maybe, because of the specialists, she doesn't have as much money for extras. thus the asking for a raise.

i watched 2 lil girls for 5 yrs. my baby was a teen and i was starting to feel that empty nest hittin' me in the head so when a new neighbor moved cross the street, i jumped at the chance to watch these lil darlings! their parents are young enough to be my children so the girls were often referred to as my grandchildren when we were out and bout. the 1st 2 yrs were the hardest for all of us.

i was blamed for; 1 child being too open to strangers, 1 child from being too afraid of strangers, when they were starving when they were picked up late, full when they were picked up early and even for making 1 child late for school when she was picked up by a school bus.

it came down to the fact that these young parents were still struggling w/; A. having children and getting married so young, B. not having great parent role models of their own, C. both parents working outside the home, sometimes very long hours, and any other self-guilt they could come up w/! LOL!

everytime these parents told (sometimes yelled) me bout what i was doing wrong, i tried hard to accommidate them. once they realized this, they backed off from the rather ridiculous complaints. things came up once in a blue moon but nothing like it had been before.

i took care of 1 lil boy who's mother was most inconsiderate and rude. upon arriving, i would tell her my granddaughter was sleeping and she would continue to be very loud. she got paid on Wednesdays but felt it was inconvenient to pay me on Fridays. the last straw was when she handed me a dirty diaper she had just changed open and upside down in my hand. i told her the truth as to why i could not watch her son again. i did lose her family as my friends but i was not willing to pay the price of having to deal w/ her selfishness every day.

so if you can talk to her, please try. if you feel you can't or don't want to then tell her the truth. calmly w/ as little emotion as possible. but make that the last day for your children. some people can be too tempted to say mean things when they're upset.

yeah all that sounds a lil weird to me.

you know there are tons of parents out there that would swear they loved thier children, but still neglect them... not feeding would be neglectful. her actions are speaking very loudly

i'm not down with kiddo being hungery at all , shyness may be just how that kid is,

you are the mama here, follow your gut, not your heart...your heart might say shes a loving lady who cares for your baby but your gut sounds like its saying something eles.

See ....now you've shared some very real concerns and issues ...  and Indeed talk to her  but  sounds like  you Do need to et her go .. Its Much more than  interaction issues ... If theres not enuff TLC  Id question love .. Period .. Ive been the Granny sitter like Drama .. I kept those kids overnites . while parents travelled, hinestly did grandparent thing  w most ... if not all. Some more than others ... However ... I was one had to wait  , took kids to appts w me , and was told frequently I did TYOO MUCH  for too little  by the more mature parents .. by younger set  advantage was taken more than not .. But I CAN say Each child was Interactive  , fed changed aplayed with read too wagon rides swings parks  and rates way too low ... I often spent more than made on kids ... Im sure Late 4 dinner can get proof I tell truth ... lol... If I felt  some guardians would be more touble  Id be one to Fire LOL ... So Do go with what you know