This SEVERALLY despresses me...

Sexless marriage: Millions of moms are in one, yet it's taboo to talk about it. Momlogic asked 2,500 married women to reveal the dirty details about their sex lives after marriage and we were shocked by what we found--half found sex to be a depressing, embarrassing or a hassle!  PLUS: Three moms and a deprived husband share their stories of sexless marriage. AND: Expert advice for spicing up your relationship.

Great minds think alike, I was gonna poat this as well... It is so sad.

Like in my blog the other day.... who do I feel sorrier for the DH for not getting it or for the wifey for not enjoying it enough to want it all the time.

It is an important ,healthy part in a relationship. and darnit we would all be a lot happier if we were gettin it on all the time...true?

With my experince I think it getts better with time. At first for me it was like a hot fast thing to do, now its a sensual sexy thing for me. I think the older and the more comunication you have the sexier and pleasurable it gets.

WOW we got some sexy moms here on mommytalk.  I think the problem moms face is not if they love sex or not but finding the time to ENJOY it.  We forget our carefree kid days- when we could enjoy sex without worring if Johnny did his homework or if the Dr. appt. was at 2 or 2:30?  I think moms have a hard time relaxing!

Sex helps to relax you... ahh ha!

 

Wow, Im shocked! I agree with mommyof4, sex gets better with age. I find as the years pass sex turns from sex to love, that the sensual side comes out in both partners. Even after children i find that the feelings toward one another changed. I loved my husband with all my being but my love grew after the first child and the second, there was a bond a closeness and to me it seemed that those feelings progressed into the bedroom. Making Passion!! Women, we need to give ourselfs a break not just on taking time to ourselfs and all the other superficial things, we need to take a break on the thoughts that we (our bodies) are not the same after babies, wear those streach marks in pride! Those love handles they are just cushin for the pushin!! Come on girls give those men a night they have dreamed of! Lose all inhibitions and attack him, he will thank you for it!  

alily4u! Get out of my head! YOu totally rock and I couldnt have said it better myself!

 

I just couldnt stand sex with my husband. I found it annoying and a major chore. Basically with him it was get it up get it in and get it off. Nothing to satisfy me and my needs. So I just stopped having sex with him.

I probably wouldnt have been to happy with that either Keri. I have been with Jess for a very long time and well we know each other very very well. he has always made me his #1 priority and vic versa... so we are both happy in the end... and if your DH wasnt willing to make you his top priority in the bedroom then your better off! YOur afree women now! go get your groove back!

with me its usally a case of being tired and always having the possibility of not being able to fall asleep afterwards (dont know why but it happens) then being a tired mess the next day. tim falls asleep almost as soon as he hits the mattress and he tells me to wake him up if im in the mood, sorry i dont like waking him up he doesnt get much sleep as it is and i get tired of hearing him complain about how tired he is.

I don't know -- I love sex. Granted, women peak sexually at 30 (or is it just in their 30's?) and guess who's 30? Seriously, though, we don't have it as often as we'd like. DH works nights and by the time he gets home, I'm usually ready to pass out. When you have the kids all afternoon/evening and your husband shows up at around 11:00, you're ready to conk out because you have to be out the door for work at 8:00. We don't see much of each other right now. We're hoping that changes when DH finds a new job with regular hours and I'm back at home. We shall see. Until then, we have sex when we can (which is usually Fridays or Saturdays) and we both do enjoy it. We've also known each other forever and were best friends for 8 years before we ever got together, so we have a connection that maybe some people don't. I mean, he was an usher in my first wedding and had he been a woman, he would have been one of my maids of honor. We spent every day together as teenagers, so I guess it's just a little different for us. Neither of us is selfish in bed either, so it's just a lot of fun for us... when we get the chance, mind you.

My DH and I don't have sex anymore. Maybe 2 times a month. It's not that I don't want to it's just I'm too tired. Before my daughter (2 yrs old) was born we had sex 2-3 times a day 5 days a week. Then she came along and it dropped down to 1 time a day 4 days a week. Now I have an almost 3 month old and we don't have sex almost at all. I think the whole nine months I was pregnant we had sex 10 times maybe and  since being born we've had sex 3 or 4 times. I'm always too tired. I'm home all day with my kids. My newborn cries everytime i put him down and then when I do get a chance to put him down it's time to clean the house or run errands. My 2 yr old has decided she doesn't need naps and won't take one. My husband feels that he doesn't like house work so he doesn't help out there (Maybe once a wk he'll do 1 chore). My newborn doesn't like daddy and screams if my hubby holds him so i don't get much help in that area plus we don't have friends or family to help out it's all up to us to raise our kids one hundred percent. And on top of it when hubby gets home from work at 4pm oclock I leave to go to work as a hairdresser. I get home a 8:30pm and hubby goes to bed at 9 pm. Then it's time to clean up from hubby and kids even though i  wasn't home to make the mess. Plus I get up with the baby through out the night. Since my sons been born my hubby has gotten up once to feed the baby. Everything is up to me. When i'm home the kids are up to me 98 percent. My hubby reads bedtime stories and plays with our daugter and that is it. I do everything else with her.  I even pay the bills and budget. My hubby does nothing around here. I'm completely exhausted. I wish we had people around to help out some but we don't. I can't even remember the last time it was just the 2 of us alone without kids spending time together. I can't even find time to shower on a regular basis. I shower once every 3-4 days and so i feel gross most of the time also. I never get to eat anymore. I eat dinner and thats it because I can't find time. I'm not trying to go on and on or make anyone feel sorry for me. This is my life. I love my hubby and kids with all my heart and i wouldn't trade my life for anything. I just hope eventually our sex life gets better. I want to have one. My hubby just asked me last wk if I'm not happy with him because of the fact we never have sex anymore and it was very upsetting because that is not the case at all. I just can't figure out how to juggle everything and i don't know how all of you mothers do it because i can't.

Me again! Well that was the way I was before. I would only have sex once or twice a month. Now I do it almost three times a day. I am turning 30 next month but not sure if that has anything to do with it. I think the thing here is that you have to open up and be creative. I know we all use the kids as an excuse and work, we all don't want to have sex becuase we are either too tired or don't have enough privacy. I was the same until I said to myself "you need it as much as he does" Don't get me wrong I sometimes don't want it either but then I talk myself into it. I feel that we are closer and more happyer. Make some time. When ever the kids go to sleep, or take a shower together and put the kids to watch some TV, or right after droping off kids, or before you guys go to work, wake him up I know he will love it, or have some sex phone and by the time he gets home from work it will just be a matter of time. I know we can all find time. I say this becuse sex in a ralashionship is one of the most important things to make a ralashionship last. Whenever I would say no to dh we were both in bad mood and would not talk for weeks. I have learned as I go. Good luck to all!