For the past 4 years my mother has watched my girls. Recently she has moved and we are in a transition period. My little one sobbed her eyes all week when the baby sitter comes over. Today she asked to go to her room and go to bed... I don't know what to do. My heart is breaking for her and I fear she's a little depressed. Any advice???

does she LIKE THE SITTER  at  ALL?  is sitter willing to do extra special fun things to get daughters mind  distractected from loss?   sHE WILL BOUNCE BACK ... will take a lil time it appears ...  

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Do you have an extra photo of your Mom that she could have?? Maybe make up a little photo album of Grandma that she can keep with her. We did that with my two kids when thier Grandfather suddenly passed away. Your little one can still see your Mom when she visits but my kids cant saddly. Having the photo's helps remind my kids of all the fun times they had.

I agree with Holly and Keri.  It will take a little time for her to readjust, but it will be ok.  And the photo album thing is an excellent idea! 

Also, one idea would be to see if the baby sitter would be willing to help your daughter make little crafts to send to Grandma.  They could make pictures and cards to send in the mail.  I know my kids LOVE doing that!  Then they can put it in the envelope themselves and put the stamp on, etc and put it in the mailbox. 

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What great ideas. I love the photo book and making the special gifts she can send off. Thank you all for your support. You are all awesome.

 She does like her sitter, but she LOVES her Nonni and there is no replacement so I know she's having a tough time right now. I just don't want her to hurt.

Its understandable that you dont want her to be sad anymore. But I think with the few things offered in advice should help her get thru it more. You could also make arrangements to call Grandma every so often so they can talk.

OKIES  W Daddy in USN when mine lil  so we moved alot , and he left ALOT!!!  But  we made cards , pics , we recorded dads voice and we made special tapes for daddy, grammassin midwest, and  took Lots Of Pictures   many w signs!! I  gave Each child a lil  locket w Daddys pic in it   and they could wear it  when they needed him  near most ... We taked on phone  whn we could , made care packages  and  sent many cards .... It was  Big help ...

these are all such great ideas! i would add 1 more. i took care of 2 lil girls (i nicknamed them Pumpkin pie and Puddin Head) 6 days a week, 10-12 hrs a day for almost 5 yrs. the youngest was just an infant when i got her. they considered me to be an "extra" grandmother. both of their parents were young enough to have been my kids so needless to say, we all had a special bond. they moved to a much larger town and had to go to a day care for the 1st time in their lives. well, the youngest went thru the roughest time but her parents helped w/ that by teaching her how to use the speed dial on their phone. i was (and still am) #3. they also have my phone number mesmerized as well as they helped Mom write my name down for emergency contacts at the day care. i am 45 mins away but when Mom explained things to day care, they had no problem adding me to the list.

so maybe you can teach your lil one how to use the phone to call her grandmother. just remember to put some rules down 1st or she may get up in middle of night! LOL!