i am trying to have another child. i already have one child and he is eight years old. i have been trying to have another one and no luck. we have tried for three years now. i am so scared that it might not happen. i love children so much. so can you please help me if you can.

Relax........let nature take its course. You might be putting to much stress on your body by worrying about it all the time. My advice is to just ..don't try so hard. Good luck to ya. WELCOME to MT, by the way

Welcome to Mommytalk.  And  I had some trouble getting pg after my first as well.  My advice would be to stop trying for a few months just to relieve yourself of the stress of trying and during those months read as much as you can about fertility.  THere is a great book out called Taking Charge of Your Fertility, highly recommend it.  Learn as much about your body and your cycles as you can.  Knowledge is POWER.  THis book is packed with tons of great info.  I haven't been on birth control since I got pg with my oldest, after reading this book, I started using the family planning method.  Thats where you watch your cycles and know when it is safe to have sex or tell hubby to wait..lol.  I wanted my first 2 to be closer in age however, after reading that book I planned my last one.  My kids are each 3 years apart. I love it.

I thought I knew myself and once I read that book I realized I knew nothing.  It was a major eye opener for me.  I haven't had to deal with any of these issues for awhile, but I am always willing to help with info, if you have any questions just ask.

 

I guess the best advice I can give you is, don't try so hard. It will happen when and if it is suppose to. We already had two children, and I still felt I needed one more. Just never felt complete. Although the two were already in school. Anyway, we tried for 2 years, and finaly gave up. We decided it just wasn't meant to be. Well, wouldn't  you know it? We got pregnant shortly after we stopped trying. My third was born and my other two were ages 9 and 11. Good luck, relax.

I have to agree with Valorie.  As someone who suffers from Infertility issues, it isn't always as easy as it sounds.  I would absolutely LOVE to make love to my husband and get pregnant, but it just doesn't work that way for me/us.  I always joke with him that getting pregnant for us is a group effort!

ABSOLUTELY   POSITIVELY SEE SPECIALISTS AND DH ALSO ...   Theres lotsa reasons  we dont concieve  easily  ... low sperm counts , acidity levels  in moms stopped up tubes  ,endometriosis , fibroids  ... his body temps  way too high for lil swimmers,  get the ice pack on start gates .. too many peas ,who knew was like natures bc... our eggs too thick for penetration... every day  babies are made and born ...   simple right ??, natural ... yet each  baby is a miracle Starting with those blessed sperm fast and firm enuff to get from him into and thru her and all the barriers in place  to  effectually prevent ,  but  wait a sec........ look at these stats  ... percentages Much higher in those Not THINKING about consequences of Sex ... Only about Enjoying a Hot Fun Playdate !!! Thats Largest number of Pregnancies ... Wow !! Who Knew just one try Bingo!! ... Is it a crock ??? Not!!!   Its True  ..When sex is about Loving , Fun, Feeling Giving ,Taking  .. Each Other .... Wonderful things happen to relax and prepare our bodies for Creation ... Statistics show harder we Try  More we Worry about it  or whats wrong w us  ... less likely too happen.. Still Always we MUST rule OUT PHYSICAL REASONS  that are Surmountable ... ...

    This all said from a mom of 2 , 5 yrs apart ... and I can Honestly say  I, like others here and everywhere had given up  tween babies 1 n2 .. Id given away baby stuff , and was Not Trying anymore ... Boom There was Sammi ... Worst POSSABLE TIMING I THOUGHT ... lol ...at time . But I wanted more and  so we went to specialist in Naples Italy, and here in States ...   and for us wasnt in Gods plan   for more .. But it was hard to accept ..at least for awhile ... Ive known Many women w deep desires  all ages  w fertility issues .. Did you know even SMOG  can prevent Pregnancy????   Still most successful  in succeeding Did RELAX , decide to adopt , or just accept  one they had ... and   be happy to  just LOVE hubby...Others  who could afford  it did  other proceedures  to make more  again some did others still dissappointed .. ... and Some  Simple changes  all it took  for others ... Fact is each baby a Miracle ... And who can say  cept God   When  and How Many ..     I will be praying for you   because Many a month I was so bitterly dissappointed ...   I shed many tears over years ... But  all turned out as it was meant to ..... I WISH that unhappiness on No Other ...  Only Gods Opening of wombs in His Perfect timing ... 

  I think ANY of us who've felt so repeatedly helpless and dissappointed month after month ...yr after year ... Sincerily HAPPY for others asall those babies born round us  while our our own hearts broken .. well I  believe weve all felt frustratd at others attempts to encourage us ... Yet the Just Relax Phrase is now and always TRUEST SOUNDEST ADVICE ....from Drs . to Voices of Experience ,  next to prayer ,faith, and  give your love were most needed...

I am not saying that "to stop trying" will get you pg.  I was just merely suggesting that taking a break and learning more about infertility can help.  Yes, going to an Specialist is always helpful as well, but not everyone can afford that.  And maybe there is something she can take care of at home that would be successful without going to a Specialist.  And again Knowledge is POWER.  Reading and knowing for yourself what is what makes it so much easier to follow a DRs advice or anything else.  And if you have the knowledge of what is going to happen when you go to a specialist then it makes things so much easier and less stressful.

Like jennsea, I also wasn't trying to be cruel. For me, it wasn't a fertility issue, and I hope you find what you need to help you to conceive. I had just decided that since we already had two, that if it didn't happen this time, it wasn't meant to be for us. Fertility is expensive and I was already getting to my upper 30's. I hope you find the answers you need and pray that all works for you.

This hits very close to home right now.   We have 2 kids (one almost 6 and one almost 4) and have been trying for about 15 months for another.  We had no issues with getting pregnant the first 2 times, so this really threw me off!  Last Friday I had my yearly appointment with my ob and he said that I definitely have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome)- it's tiny little cysts on your ovaries that mess up your hormone levels and can cause all kinds of unpleasant health and body issues.  He said he can pretty much guarantee that I am not ovulating (which makes it pretty tough to get pregnant! lol) and prescribed a medication called Metformin.  It's actually a diabetic medication (PCOS puts you at high risk for diabetes and this helps reduce that risk) plus it helps get your hormones back in order.  He also said that if you are overweight (Yup!) that even losing 5-10% of your body weight can sometimes be enough to reset your body and get things back on track.  He said that the reason this is just an issue now is that sometimes the symptoms of PCOS are mild enough to not really cause problems when you're in your early to mid 20s, but as you get a little older (I'm 31) it gets progressively worse.  At any rate, I would check with your dr.  A simple blood test can check your hormone levels and whether or not you're ovulating.  If you have ruled out physical problems, then it does help to try to relax.  Anyway, best wishes and God bless!

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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I too got prego with my first right away without trying but for my second we were trying for a year and half. I did see my ob and found out I wasn't ovulating so I got started on fertility pills. After still nothing I had a procedure done where they opened up my tubes. After that was done I actually got prego right away. I would definatly try talking to your dr if you haven't already. And by the way the pills weren't any more that a regular RX. Hang in there and hope you get some good news soon.

Wow Lisa   I didnt realize youd already gone... Im praying that  God opens  your wombs  ladies ..

 In meantime, I'm sharing a fave video link .. Its journey thru conception thru birth  mostly from inside us    was tv documntary  few years ago   awesome ... enjoy

 http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/miracle/program. ...

not religious.....lol but very informative  and for me and maany othersas you watch .... can personally see nothing BUT Miracle going on here  from designer cant be beat ... , annd shows many of natural barriers for creation ... simply amzing !!!!

I am sorry, I am not mad at anyone here I am just mad in general.  I hope no one took offense.  xoxo

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for those of you that have been trying to get pregnant.  I have witnessed first hand through very dear friends of mine, the struggles that they endured. 

Our friends were married several years before they even started trying to have children.  Then, it took them 5 years and countless tests and procedures to get pregnant the 1st time.  The two of us were pregnant at the same time, (my 3rd baby, her 1st), we were due just a month apart. Fitting that we would be pregnant together, as her hubby and my hubby best friends, we started dating just one month apart, and our hubbys' parents had been friends since they were teenagers.  Still friends today...over 40 years later. 

Sadly, their baby was stillborn just about 2 months shy of gestation.  Her and her husband were told that they wouldn't be able to have any children of their own.  They since have adopted.  A beautiful girl, whom is now 6 and a boy who is a little over one.  However, their story gets better...she just recently gave birth to a healthy baby boy.  While in the midst of adopting their second child, she found out she was pregnant.  Obviously they were not trying, they never thought that they could have children of their own.  Surprise!

Life is full of the unexpected.  I just wanted to share their story. In no way do I think their experience will be the same as those here, but I thought that knowing that even when the cards are totally against you...there is always hope, and surprises.

I wish you all the very best in surprises!