Thsmomrocs's Blog
Sex and Relationships
Anniversary Sex and Real Smiles
Aug 05, 2008 12:16 pm
If you are the type that find it icky to read about others sex lives then stop reading now cause "It's getting hot in here" I feel compelled to share my happiness with my fellow mommytalkers and besides that I want to hear what you all have to say about SEX and marriage.
Recently I went out to dinner with a bunch of gals, normally not my cup of tea as many of you know I'm not the cookie cutter gal(meaning I'm less girly then most I don't do hair or nails and hate putting on dresses but for this occasion I thought I had too). And I often suffer from this inferiority complex, when around other women who are more girly then I. I just assume that "normal" ladies find me... well, unsavory for lack of a better word. My very good friend will soon be wed in the outter banks of NC and this was her bacholoette soiree.
During dinner it had come up that I was leaving early to go home and get naked.... after all my kiddies were gone for the night and I could be alone with DH. So then my home slice was like what you just did it like, yesterday...lol...( I had told her I think I hurt my back having sex) there I was setting in the midst of all these ladies looking at me like "what you did it yesterday and your doing it again today?" YEP that was the plan any way, I enjoy gettin it on with my husband and enjoy it even more when the kids aren't home so we can let our hair down so to speak.
So then I heard all the things that these other gals had to say about their sex lives. Some not even married to their partners yet and already are like "we did it 3 times already we are good for July, right?" I didn't know if I should feel sorry for the guy for not getting it or for the gal for not enjoying it enough to want it all the time. (I wonder what they would have said if they new the truth that I had done it four days in a row.) I have been with Jesse for over half my life now that's 15 yrs and some months I can't imagine it being any other way.
Is it because we are moms now that they feel that way or just older, (please tell me this isn't ever going to go away). I understand we are tired and stressed and touched completely out. I still can't imagine only having sex like 4 times a month. Don't get me wrong I have my days where i'm like stay the hell away from me... but for the most part its the same as it was when were we younger except now I get all paranoid about kids waltzing in...lol
I don't want to be my mom and dad, I don't want to ever slip into that routine where its work and sleep and take care of kids, I want to be gettin my freak on when ever I can even if that means sneaking to the basement to help daddy with something, or Daddy needs my help in the garage. My god, where there is will there is a way!
I think I'm alot happier when I get to have sex regularly, I know my smiles are real! In fact yesterday was my anniversary I have been married for 7 yrs I went to sleep last night with the biggest smile and woke up and it was still on my face.
So my thing is am I some kind of freak cause I enjoy sex with my husband...and often too? Or are there other mommies out there who aim to please themselves and hubby by gettin naked and doing the deed?
More power to you for writing this blog! I agree, I could not imagine thinking 3 - 4 times, my duty is done. I have friends that say the same thing and I find I'm the odd one. Now, given our guy is 2 1/2, we are not as active as pre-parent life. However, I like to get it on with dh a couple of times a week. Sometimes, it less do to obligations or stress and other times its more!
IMO - it is important - healthy for us individually and for our relationships to keep that part going! Plus - who are we kidding totally fun!
Sent by: SJ
Aug 05, 2008 8:18 pm
So With You!
Me and dh are pretty frequent mambo dancers, in the horizontal sense. LOL! I think sex is an important part of a relationship, just last night dh and i were talking about ours (beer helps us be more candid, lol) and delighting in the fact that we both enjoy our sex life so much that no matter the circumstance, it's go time anytime.
It means a lot to me to provide my man with what he needs, people get cheated on for one of two reasons, they're a pure pig or they're not getting satisfied, and I didn't marry a pig.
So as my wifely duty, and it's my pleasure trust me, I take care of that need as often as it's there because it's a mutual craving. I hope it never goes away, god help me I'll be so damn cranky.
I used to never understand when people would say, "So and So needs to get laid..." well, I do now.
When you have a great connection and a great relationship and you feel great with that person about everything, how you look, how you express yourself and everything, how can you not wanna enjoy your most carnal desires - as often as possible?
Makes sense to me.
Sent by: MouthyGirl
Aug 09, 2008 12:53 pm