Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

My best friend is a friend I have known since I was 4 yrs old.  We still communicate several times a year.  She moved away from our home town when I was 11, she was 12.  Every summer - I would go to TX to see her for a month, and then she would come back to IL with me until we were out of school.  Went to Padre Island, TX when we were 20 together for spring break, stood up for each other in our weddings, and her oldest, my second child are 13 days apart.

We always said we were going to live with connecting back yards and raise dogs while we were growing up - and maybe someday hopefully we will. 

She is the one, I can call and tell anything to, she will listen give me opinion, good or bad and still not judge me.  I - LYLAS (back in the day - some of you will know what that is).

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Keri -

You are strong, and it will be tough - but it is best, unless he gets help, and then he still needs to do that outside the house and show a true effort to become and stay sober.

Being alone is hard, but it is better than the stress and the turmoil that you feel.

Keep your chin up - we are here for you, and I will drive across the valley for coffee one day if needed.

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

I watched the aftermath of ...

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Awesome feature - I wondere...

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

To me Liz is thinking of on...

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Too cool!

I would go through posts to try to learn about people, now you have made it easier.

Thanks for all you do!

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

You've got support from a lot of us here.

Thought & prayers are with you!

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

I rely alot on soapce...

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

We lived to gether for 6 months before we got married, however it is because he lived in FL, I was in IL and I moved there prior to us getting married.  However, I feel it is a good choice to live together before you get married.  You learn the quirks prior to getting married and decide if you can look past them and take the plunge.  My friend and her boyfriend did not live together before they gt married, and after 9 months she filed for divorce because she could not handle living with him.  She wishes she would not have been so adament about waiting - it would have saved both of them a lot of money and their relationship.  She thinks they would still be together if living apart.

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

I had the same problem with my inlaws (outlaws).  They are serious smokers, sometimes they lite one before they are done with the other one.  When my oldest was 3 months old, they came to FL to see her for the first time.  We were on the FL room getting ready to eat, MIL was holding her and started to try to lite one.  I FLIPPED A BISCUIT. 

Needless to say, they knew better then to ever lite up at my house again around them. (although, I was deemed the witch) However, there house - they did not respect my wishes, they felt it was their house, their rules.  Even if they did not smoke, you still walked out like you had been in a room with 12 smokers for 12 hours. It is disgusting!

Last time we were back in Illinois, we stayed at inlaws house for the first time in our 11 yr marriage.  Needless to say it was one night, my husband of all people complained about it.  Even the guest room whose door is closed when not in use, reeked!  We laid down for bed and you could smell the smoke.  My husband looked at me and said - tomorrow we go back to your parents.  THANK YOU LORD!

Stay intent on your intentions!  Your husband needs to support you 100% of the way.  If your inlaws want to see your daughter, they need to come to your house, do not take her their.

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau

Denise
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame"
-Henry David Thoreau