Hello everyone!  I just came across this article about being the "perfect wife" and just thought I would share.  I thought this might get some interesting comments going on.  So, let us know what you think.....is it possible to be a "perfect wife"....or "perfect husband" for that matter.  Is this something we should be trying for, or is it just old-fashioned nonsense?

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"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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I do fall into many of those catogorys but Perfect Im not. I do things to anoy my dh. I sometimes won't clean for a day. I would love to be perfect but if that were the case then I would have jumped out the window along time ago lol.

I can't even answer the poll, because my answer to this question isnt up there. I believe the perfect wife is the wrong term. I believe that the word "perfect" shouldnt be used. For one reason, expectations always can fall short. What works in my own marrage is give and take (50/50), but never just give, give and give... or vice versa.  I do believe that a wife should take pride in her home and family, I believe that it is important to cook meals for your family and have everyone eat as a family. I don't think that the wife should do all the cooking and cleaning, ect. because for example it is giving the children the belief that this is "normal"... and it produces a cycle that the kids will grow up thinking that every mother/wife is like this, and like I said, expectations will fall short. It does seem old fashioned, but it can be re-vamped. Strive to be a loving mother and wife, and there shouldnt be a problem. Value everything you have, contribute equally and then your what I consider, a "good" wife/mother.

BTW, great post Lisa!  

Two words "Stepford wife"   I do not fall into any of those polls- but i answered "no way" because it isn't being the "perfect wife to other people but being "perfect" for your self.  You do the things because it makes you proud- and self-sufficient-then that will go on to your children.  If you are the "perfect" wife you are depended on and what if God for shame you are the one sipping food from the straw- or the one that passes away-how would the ones you love take care of themselves.  Does my 4 year old put his dishes in the sink-heck yes so does my 18 month old.  when they don't they have to come back and do it-not because i am mean but because I love them enough to know they will be able one day to take care of themselves-   AWESOME ARTICLE LUV

hehehe this part is pretty funny

She cleans up without a second thought as to who did it last time or why everyone around her can't seem to walk to the kitchen sink. She knows that one day the house will be childless and there won't be laughter as everyone is gathered around the TV watching a movie and forgetting their dishes. The perfect wife covets the memories that are being made in the household from an active family life.

covets the memories being made which she isnt a part of because she is in the kitchen cleaning up everyone elses mess.

and whats up about all the talk of her husband ending up in a nursing home or dying guess its really wishful thinking on her part since she seems to do everything to meet that goal so she no longer has to deal with him =P

it is very old fashioned in the sense that she gets to bend over backwards for everyone one else and really doesnt get anything in return, no thank yous or help, just the dreams of her husband in a nursing home or dead =P sounds more like a nuns life hehehe.

i mainly do the cleaning here tim cooks since i suck at it but he rarely cooks heh. he plays and takes care of simon when he gets home from work. work late hahaha he knows that by the end of the day alot of times im ready to pull my hair out from being stuck at home dealing with simon the whiny butt head dog and lately the roomate. i can usally get all my cleaning done in one day that day is usally monday but of course i didnt have a chance to do that this monday since tim came home early to take the dog to the vet and simon was sick so he didnt nap heh. my cleaning has now been pushed off till thursday since the roomate will be back to work that day (he gets in my way if i try and clean with him home dont know why but he spends most his time in his room but if i get out cleaning supplies he is right there in my way) bad thing is thursday is usally laundry day =(  so much for trying to have a schedule.

I may sound old fashion but I really enjoyed the article and would like to be more like that.  Now am I that way now?  Uh no, not even close.  I tend to get hung up on some of the little things were I should just let them go.  I don't take this article as being the "perfect" wife but in being the best wife and mommy that you can be to your family. 

Thanks for sharing. 

 

Perhaps Perfect isnt the proper term  and certainly not attainable in this lifetime lol  However I pray my DH finds me to be HIS Perfect wife  warts fat shrewish days and all .... That he may NEVER be sorry for real that Im the one he married   I want only to be PERFECT for my GUY .... He is my prince , my Knight  my LOVE my Heart

I know I am not the perfect wife. I do the best I can.. love my husband, care for my baby, and all the 'wifely responsibilities.' I try hard to make sure my husband is happy, but know i am really forgetful (i am one of those -i would forget my head if it wasn't attached- type of people). I don't want to be reaching for a perfection that i cannot achieve because it may depress me with how far off i am from reaching it; i sometimes get the vibe that my husband measures me towards a perfect wife. but he always loves me through all of my adventures!!

I guess I don't want to be the 'perfect' wife.  I don't feel that I have to do all the cleaning up. When the kids make a mess I make them clean it up, it makes them more responsible and makes them appreciate everything that I do for them.  I do the best of my ability to make my family happy and make my husband feel loved and respected. I really don't like the term perfect anyways, no one will ever be perfect.......one man was perfect and look how he got treated for it.  The Lord knows that no one should be perfect at everything they do. There has to be effort from everyone in a home to make it work.

I agree with many of you.  I think that it is important to teach our children responsibility, and I think that is a big part of our job.  I also believe that marriage should be a partnership.  And I think that behind all of the potentially disagreeable stuff in this article is the idea that our attitude has a lot to do with things.  I believe that being a good wife and mother has less to do with what specific jobs we do, and a lot mroe to do with our attitude toward our husbands and children.  And even there, I know that I am far from perfect.  I know that despite my best efforts, I will never be perfect, but I can still try to keep my perspective and keep negativity in check.  Because at the end of the day, I want to know that I did the best that I could, and that my husband and children are thankful for my being here.

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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I couldn't answer the poll either because I didn't fall into one response.  This article reminds me of a photocopy of a magazine article from a Women's magazine in the 50's.

My personal take, while I think some of the stuff is out there - I also see some value in the needs it speaks.  I wouldn't want to be 100% of what is described, too much fakeness & too many other consequences; however, I think a modified modern day take.. for example, instead of dropping everything for spouse when he comes home and totally forgetting your own needs a perspective I would like to take is not to make assumptions on the day he/she may have had & to give he/she a moment to switch from work gear to home gear.  I also think that is should go both ways.

I will never ever be a perfect wife. I failed at being a wife over the past 16 yrs. Plus NOBODY is perfect.

Nobody is a Perfect wife and Nobody fails at being a wife.. Being the child of divorced parents and being divorced myself marriages fail because of compatibility.. Without it, each side is always fighting to be dominant over the other.. You can fail at being compatibile with someone and you can be a compatible wife.. Though with being compatibile it means giving and taking both ways and smiling while doing so.

Though in today's world it is expected for the male to be just as helpful around the house. Any male who doesn't do dishes or doesn't do laundry should be beaten with a stick of dried pepperoni.

 -MD

If my husband made a 6 figure income and those were my only responisibilities and my free time was MINE to do whatever I wanted with then I would do it.. I would be the perfect wife.  However, I would wait til they were all asleep and would go to the nearest 24 hour wal-mart and jsut sit and watch there TV's just to have some time to myself.  Also, I would request a salary or allowence from my husband of hmmmmm  I dunno  atleast a thousand dollars a month and put it into to savings until my kids were grown then i would divorce his ass and high tail it to Australia.. 

 

BUT, my DH doesn't bring home a 6 figure income..  Infact I make just as much as he does... So the way I see it is he works I work we BOTH have to contribute doing chores, cleaning, laundry, dishes, childcare, and most of all LOVE to our home..  It took both of us to make a baby and its going to take both of us to raise her and teach her and love her and clean up after her and provide all of her necessities througout life.  So I guess I'm currently an ImPerfect Loving Caring Strong Not Understanding my role Wife.

I don't know what dude dreamed this up but he should be bent over his daddy's knee and spanked with leather belt until he learns a lesson or two on how the cookie crumbles NOW A DAYS.

 

I had to force myself to read it. I was so offended by the title. If I understand correctly, the perfect wife is supposed to put herself last in order to please her husband and children. This is how we create monsters: self-centered pigs who think it's OK that Mom works all day and then does all the cooking, cleaning, homework, bedtime stories, etc. Family is all about sharing the chores and the fun. My husband and kids have always done their fair share because that was the expectation. This is how we teach our children to be generous, thoughtful, and responsible adults. If you are married to a man who expects you to do all the work, chances are good that his mother did everything for him....no favor to you. We need to stop the madness now. Moms, require your boys to do housework just like the girls. And require the girls to do outside work as well. Let's get out of the 50's please! This article depressed the hell out of me.