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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

So many emotions already this morning.  its not good when I am already crying at 830 in the morning!  Christmas is upon us and I am missing those that can't be with me this year.  You would think after 27 years, I'd be used to my Dad not being here, but I'm not.

My heart is hurting for others as well.  All my life, I can remeber my Mom having 3 best friends.  They did everything together. played bridge, had shopping trips, etc.  Its been tough on her, the first one went about 7 years ago, the second about 3 years ago, now the last one is in the hospital not doing well at all.  It hurts me to see my Mom hurting like this.

I just found out one of my friends form where I used to work, her father passed away.  I know how close she was to him and it hurts me to see others hurt like I did (still do) missing my Dad.

I wrote our family Christmas letter last night and had my hubby read it to see what he wanted to add.  Now I see him hurting reminding him that his brother isn't here.

Maybe I need to watch cartoons with Shelby and get myself out of the funk.

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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

chin up! things will get better.... just think of all the good things you have...

that might cheer you up!

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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

You know what Leeann?  THERE ARE LOTS OF US GO THRU THAT VERY FUNK ,ESPECIALLY AT HOLIDAYS!!!!!! And its ok to cry and mourn them, to miss them   and especiaaly to hurt for and with others as well as self. Thats what makes  you special. So long as we remember that in order to honour these gone , we must also REJOICE  in their memory. For honestly , they do not wish us too be unhappy, and for those who love  Jesus, and have gone on to be with Him , they are very happy indeed. I think we will always miss those gone from our lives  whose love and lives enriched us sooo.... Like my momma who loved Christmas and  as I go about decorating, baking,  shopping I know shes here in me. Not a year goes by w/out  Thinking of her and wishing she was here. I think now at Christmas I just think of her as living far away, and knowing I will see her again. The thing is we gotta look ahead and realize we to are enriching others lives with our love and just reaching out to love and comfort, to help those in need and focus on how we can make world better place   well that restores our joy. so go ahead and cry a bit, then think of the happiness shared and try to move ahead blessing others ... AND SOON YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN.  silly as it seems I SPENT LAST WEEK CRYING OVER LOSS OF MY LITTLE BEETHOVAN, AND YET GLAD HE WAS THERE TO GREET KEVIN  IN HEAVEN .and now Im feeling much better.  I said a prayer for you and yours today, while I dont always post em I do pray ....and I love you .

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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

*hugs*  I'm sorry!  Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers today.  God bless and keep you, dear!

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Posted: 1 years ago

I know how you feel LeeAnn.

This is a funny time of year.  So much joy, yet so easy to slip into the funk thinking of years (and especially people) gone by.

Just typing this makes me think of my own dad.  He and I had a lot of special memories, but the best time of year was Christmas when we'd go shopping together.  Or rather, shop for a half hour then have a bottle of wine with lunch, people watching at the mall.  He was really old school, so the notion of day drinking and people watching always had him giddy, like a kid playing hooky.

Anyway, I'm misty just typing this, but where I was trying to go was that it's OK to feel a little funky.  Embrace it, and talk to/with the people you are thinking about.  I can't reach out and touch him anymore, but my pop is sitting here with me as sure as I'm typing this.

And you have a bunch of friends out here too!!! 

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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

Sweetie I am so sorry for your pain. It seems that the holidays brings more tears too many. You need too try too be strong for your mom, your husband and your children. Life is about learning how too let go and loving those who are here.

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Title: Just having one of those days...
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So sorry that you are having a difficult time today. Just know you are not alone in all this. I have alot of people that I have lost over the years and its not easy during the holidays. Just try to remember all the good times that you all had like your Mom playing bridge with her friends. And its ok to have a good cry no matter what the time of day it is.

Im having some hard times myself here with my marriage that is ending cause I am not happy at all. So know that we all have pain and sadness in us. But remember there is a light at the end of the dark tunnel.

 Hugs.

 

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Title: Just having one of those days...
Posted: 1 years ago

As everyone else sad to many of us know that feeling.....  My year was 2002, hubby and I lost a loved one almost every month that year.  It started with my miscarriage and ended with my father in law.  I still struggle with the loses we have suffered, the holidays are a little tougher because of it.  BUT we have decided that instead of focusing on the saddness we would find ways to make better memories this time of year.  like my youngest was born 2 weeks after the anniversary of my father in laws death, so now we look at his birthday and get ourselves excited and focus on that.

Remember the year is ending, leave your saddness in this year, so you can start the New Year with happiness and wonderful memories.  Only bring joy with you in to 2008

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Everyone.  Love yourselves and those around you and make memories that will keep you happy for a lifetime.

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Title: Just having one of those days...
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The holidays force out emotions that for some reason the rest of the year we mostly keep bottled away.  Recognize those feelings, respect them, have a cry, and then focus on all the positive things in your life.  The wonderful husband, children, mother, friends. Be forever grateful for the memories that you have and the memories that you will make this year.  Never forget how precious life is! 

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Title: Just having one of those days...
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Sometimes I feel I am having one of those WEEKS. It always gets better. The rush and hurrying of the holidays will make the sanest person a little crazy.  Hang in there, it always has to get better.  Take a break, grab a soda, veg out in front of the TV, enjoy a good movie, take a walk.........whatever it takes. Smile......it makes people wonder what you are up to.

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