So, how many of you out there only have one child and aren't planning any more? Were you yourself an only child or are you from a big family? Did you have trouble conceiving after the first one? Click here to read the article ...

I think every person is different.  I personally, did not struggle to get pregnant. For my first 2 pregnancies, we weren't actively trying, but hubby and I weren't doing anything to stop a pregnancy from occuring either. 

The first two children are 2 1/2 years apart. We were actually done having babies after our son was born.  Happy with 2 children a girl and a boy.  Then we were actively trying NOT to conceive, but fortunately birth control did not work. LOL!  There is a 5 1/2 years age difference between baby 2 and baby 3, and then a 2 plus year difference before baby 4.

 Their ages are:

Eldest Daughter: 15 1/2

Eldest Son: 13

Youngest Son: 7 1/2

Youngest Daughter: 5

Well, I have one brother and my hubby has one sister so we both had two children families.  Anthony and I have always wanted to same, two children.  We were very fortunate to get pregnant the first month we were trying with Gabriel.  And as of yesterday we found out we are pregnant with our second! We will most likely be stopping after this one!

We haven't made the decision for #2 yet, but leaning that way - if it is a go, we'll see if it more difficult.  #1 was very easy and I have heard that sometimes #2 is  harder and it is not until the stress factor of having another lightens up.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, having my son validated that one for me.

My suggestion, relax and let nature take its course.  Tell your mom to back-off, she knows you want one what the heck is the point of rubbing it in that your not pregnant yet. 

That may not help that feeling of disappointment each month, having not experienced the desire and difficult to get pregnant at this point - I' unable to speak to that.

As for age differences - I don't think it really matters one bit.  It is more about how you raise your children, the value of family and the relationships they build on their own.   

While my brother & I are 2 years, my DH has 6 & 7 with his older sisters and 5 with his younger brother.  He & his younger brother were very close growing up and the age factor really didn't mean anyting.  With his older sister (#2), a little different because she got married w/ children very very young - however, today they are closer.  My mom and her sibling's are close, med. and spread out.  From my perspective, it doesn't seem to make a difference in their relationships, especially today.

Best of luck to you!

I know the feeling of wanting to become pregnant so badly it hurts. After my miscarriage before Bradley I became obsessed with conceiving it only took a few months though. but still those first few cycles brought so much pain it was difficult and very saddening.

I have one brother who is 7 years younger than I .  I always said that I wanted at least to children, and no more than a year or two apart.  But here I am with 1 who is now almost 6!!!!  I definitely want another one (hopefully a little princess!!) but my hubby says I am crazy.  And financial it just isn't realistic now.  BUT!!!  Should the stars align just right sometime after january....who knows what could happen!!! LOL!!!

I did not have problems concieving either of my children. Brianna happened the first time we "tried". After she was born, I didn't get on any birth control but we were being careful. Then, 8 months later, we decided we didn't care to be careful anymore and along came Josh! I wanted to be done for sure after my son, so my husband got a Vasectomy. I never wanted more than 2 children, and I had one of each so we were happy.

I've had friends who were having difficulty getting pregnant. I really think it's just stress. It makes sense. I never actively "tried" I guess, we just stopped birth control and safety and it happened. I think I would've been okay though, even if it didn't happen the first month we were unprotected. If you just go with the flow, it will happen eventually. Stop worrying. Our bodies are meant to do this. It will work.

~Jessica~

I completely understand!!!  With Emma, I got pregnant right away, immediately after going off the pill.  No problems whatsoever.  Then, it went pretty quick and easy with Timothy.  I knew several family and friends that had trouble getting pregnant, and even though I felt bad, I couldn't really identify with that.  I can now.  For a long time, I have thought that I would like to have 4 kids.  With Timothy, I had a little bit more difficult pregnancy, and the first year and a half were pretty rough.  Randy wasn't really sure that we could handle another one, so we just didn't really think about it.  But there was still that ache in me to have another.  Then this past winter, Randy asked if I wanted to have another.  I said I would like to, and he said he would too.  So, we have been trying for a little more than 6 months.  I know that's not very long compared with what some people go through, but it is so frustrating and disappointing.  The biggest frustration for me is that my hormone levels are kind of out of whack, and my body will frequently act pregnant without actually being pregnant.  And that was true almost since Timothy was born 3 years ago.  For those who have never dealt with something like this, you have no idea how emotionally draining it is.  Every month, you start to think that maybe, just maybe there's a chance that this could be it.  You try so hard not to get your hopes up, but you just can't help it.  Finally, you just can't stand it anymore and you get up the nerve to take the test and.....negative.  It's so easy to say to just "relax and let it happen in its own time" and it's completely true and good advice....it's just SO hard to follow.  Anyway, my heart goes out to any of you ladies who have dealt or are currently dealing with it.  I'm with you, and I pray the best for you!

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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Luv2bhome, thanks for the great comment.  I can relate to the "false pregancy syndrome".  I believe doctors call it a phantom pregnancy, in which you have all the symptoms of being pregnant, but are in fact, not.  It's devastating, and it's happened to me on more than one occasion.

It is suggested that this type of thing is psychological, especially when you want to have another child so badly.

I'm still learning how to let go of all that, it's supposed to help conception (real conception -)

I have 4 older brothers so there is 5 on my said and there is a total of 5 on hubbys side. I have one little girl that is 2 1/2 now and a new one on the way. We have not yet decided on how many we want. I guess when the time comes god will tell us no more. So thats all I can say on how many we really want. My mom told me that when the grandkids started to come then she knew she was done. So maybe will be the same way or our time will before that. Its a hard decision when you really think about it. Well good luck with everyone.

It really wasn't a hard decision for me. We didn't think about it for long because usually one's first instinct is right, and I didn't want to overthink it and make the wrong choice. Sometimes I get a pang of regret when I hear that someone is pregnant or see a brand new baby, but I realize that we made the right choice for us, and 2 is enough for me to handle. God bless anyone that can handle so many children. I ask my mother all the time how she handled 4 kids so close in age. She doesn't even know. lol

Our first we didnt know about timing etc so I think part of why it took 18 months is we jsut werent always trying at the right time of the month. I had a horrible birth exp due to the military doctors and nurses and it took me 7 years to want to put my self in an ob's hands again for anything. The 2nd time we did know about timing and such but it still took 2 years to get pregnant this time around so there is almost 10 years between our 2 sons. We had finally decided to quit actively trying when we finally got pregnant. Sometimes it is stress but not always. Thats the same time we got pregnant with #1 was when we had decided to quit for a while since we were making a major move overseas and I didnt think doing it pregnant would be a good idea. Well murphy and his law like our family so I ended up making the move at 4 month pregnant *lol*

i have a sister that is 2 years younger than me i also have a older half brother but i dont know how far apart we are in age ive only met him a couple times. tim has a older sister they are 2 years apart. i have thought about having a second one only problem is i hated being pregnant, i had a horrible delivery experiance, simons first year was hard very hard and i dont think i could handle another one. every time i think about having another one simon decides to be a horrible butt and the thought quickly leaves my mind hehe .

Well when I got pregnant with Aron we weren't even trying. I had to stop the pill while on our honeymoon. Husband got confused on date and time we were to leave for cruise, (but that is a whole different story). Any ways about two weeks later I was pregnant. As for number two we planned it, but we started trying when Aron was 6 months old. It took 1 1/2 years to finally say we are expecting. After trying for 1yr my dr put me on Clomid (I just stopped ovulating) it still took 6 months to concieve. I am due Dec 11 with baby boy #2. I would like to have 1-2 more children but my dear sweet husband says he is done (he is scared to have a little girl ) Im still trying to convince him. I myself have 3 in my family and husband has 7, 3 of whom he don't even have contact with. My extended family is large and I love it so I would love to have a big family.

I have 3 sisters and were all about 2 yrs apart.......A half baby brother, about 10 yrs younger than me ...... My girls are  5 yrs apart, and  both were surprizes ...... I tried and  tried to have another  after   Sammi   but never happened    , TWAS VERY VERY HARD on me as I wanted a whole bunch     Gary had 2 brothers And 3 sisters   and he was content w just one  w us both