I'm sure this is just a normal phase, but my 16-month-old has gotten REALLY clingy the past few weeks. For me to use the bathroom or shower alone, her father has to hold her, kicking and screaming, outside the door. She is intensely jealous when I try to hold friends' babies or even hug her father. My question is: is it better to cater to her and allow her to be with me every minute while she's going through this phase, or does she need to learn that she has to be separated from me at times? I don't want to do anything to make this worse. Some advice, please!

Very normal  part of road to independance, seems like they want the to be more independent, then they  get scared .Thats what makes it  a very scary time for babies .  But they do out grow it  as they realize we always try to get back  asap hehheh

It is VERY VERY normal. My daughter did the same exact thing as yours is doing. When she was about that age she would scream and cry if I wanted to take a shower or use the bathroom. I just said forget it and took her in with me. At that age I dont think it will hurt anything if you take her into the bathroom with you. If you have to shower do you have a playpen or something to contain her in while you shower?? That way she doesnt get into trouble.

It took awhile for her to get over being so clingy. Finally had gotten her use to being away from me when we moved into our new home in 1997. We had a burgler alarm in our house and the first night DH had to put the puppy out and forgot that he armed the house. BOY OH BOY!!! She slept with me again at night for a year. Either on my bed or on a makeshift bed on the floor near me. I didnt sleep that well that year!

This will pass. My daughter is now 12 yrs old and its now "MOM YOUR EMBARRASSING ME!!!!"

LOL.

 

 

Totally normal! No need to worry, they grow out of this phase and then you will wish they would follow you around.

I used to put my youngest daughter in her exersaucer whenever I took my shower.  This way she was still in the bathroom with me, I could open up the shower door to talk with her, and she was still able to entertain herself while being contained.  Of course, she was a little big for the exersaucer, but it served it's purpose.

Best wishes.  :0)

My daughter is almost 2 1/2 and she is the same way. Where ever mommy is she has to be there. The good thing is she is old enough to just standing there and talking to me until I am done. I am hoping she gets out of it soon cause I need some me time. lol O wait whats that. lol

Yes, I remember those days very well.  It wasn't terribly long ago for Timothy.  In fact, he still wants to be in the bathroom with me to talk to me sometimes.  That usually lasts about 30 seconds before he decides to go do something fun.  I think what worked well for me with the shower thing was to give them some of the bathtub crayons to decorate the shower door, or a damp washcloth to "clean" the outside of the tub and shower door.  That and talking and playing peek-a-boo seemed to work pretty well.  But it really does get better.  Now Emma is definitely in the "private" stage and Timothy is getting there.  Just know that it will come to an end, and enjoy the fact that they enjoy being with you.

"I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.  For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.  Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth." -Psalm 57:9-11. 

 

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