Hello moms,

I don't really have any advice, but my daughter was like that a lot when she was about that age.  It was so bad, I let her sleep in my bed at night because I couldn't get her to sleep in bassinett at night.  She grew out of it, probably around 2 months or so.  So hopefully your baby will just grow out of it soon. 

I know exactly what You mean...I found that doing things like singing to her helps you and baby relax more, also take walks when weather is nice and get some fresh air, and sometimes I would get My favorite drink and ice and take sips and deep breaths. You will get through this part, dont worry.

 

Jazmyn would do that too.....After I put her down I would keep my hands on her for a few minutes until she got settled. Maybe you could try it.

Oh my goodness, I have a 4 month old and she was just like that in the beginning. Don't worry, I know exactly how you feel. But don't worry, they grow out of it. For the last month, my daughter does not liked to be carried when she's going to sleep. She wants to be put down and than she's out cold. And now, I miss holding her in my arms because she rather be down, the worst part is that she's only 4 months.

Congratulations Heidi on your little addition.

I have a 6 1/2 week old boy.  And it is quite an adjustment I've found out.  Once all the family leaves and husband goes to work it is lonely.  Thank god for the internet-I feel somewhat still connected to the outside world with this little computer.  I've found the days fly by, before I know it is 5:00, and I haven't brushed my teeth!

Do you have a baby bjorn?  I've noticed that helps with the always wanting to be held.  It's usually an instant sleeper for them.  Then the swaddling workds so well-People recommended the Happiest BAby on hte Block video.  The steps in there helps them feel comforted.

Welcome, I'm in Phoenix, but I love Orange County, used to live in Chapman.

Welcome, new mommy! I live in Georgia and have a nine-month-old. And I have two words for you--Baby Papasan! I don't know if you have Target stores in California, but the Baby Papasan chair costs about $50. It vibrates and plays music, and my baby loved it.  It's a great way for the baby to feel comforted and secure while at the same time giving you a chance to go to the bathroom!

First of all, welcome! I found that putting my kids in their cribs right away helped in that there was no big transition. My son did have a bassinet at first simply because we didn't have the room at the time for two cribs, but even he went in the crib young. I also made a lot of noise around them (vaccuum, tv, radio) when they would sleep so they wouldn't startle as easy. That may help her for when you move her from your arms to the crib.  I will say, though, that letting her fall asleep in your arms constantly is going to make it that much harder. With the first baby, your instinct is to stop the crying immediately because they're little and we're so in love with them and we want them to be happy... but we also have to let them cry a little bit (even just a little) so they get used to getting themselves to sleep in the crib. Your daughter is still so small and only you know her 100%, but consider trying to let her "tough" it out a little and see if she gets easier putting down.

Hello,

Thank goodness, I found this chat group. My daughter is 6 weeks old and i feel myself totally tied up with her. My husband and I are in Wisconsin and its so cold and it gets dark early. Once my husband is off to work, I feel so lonely and the dark evenings make me feel sad. I am just waiting for summer. Sometimes I get tired of just being around my daughter. Need some advice...

 

 

Hello and welcome. I think being at home with your kids alone can make you a little "stir" crazy. I would suggest that you make some time to do things that you enjoy, even if it's in the house. I would suggest continually reaching out to people during the day, it is good to talk to people. From using a site like this, to just picking up the phone and calling a friend, you need personal interaction.

And keep a busy schedule. Always having something to be done will help pass the time until the hubby gets home. Don't worry, everything is going to be ok.

And it will get warmer there soon enough. Enjoy the cold. In the summer here in AZ, it's too dang hot to go outside!!! I am not looking forward to that.

Welcome again 

HI Vikki,

Thanks for ur reply. Just a few sentences like this gives loads of comfort.

I wish I'd had MommyTalk when my kids were babies. It would have been wonderful to be able to ask for advice or support whenever I needed it. I remember the feeling of being overwhelmed and having no adult conversation during the day. Once I would finally get them to bed at night, I would take a long walk with a neighbor/friend who also had two babies.  One night I came home with lights ablazing and husband pacing frantically. He was a minute from calling the police. Seemed I was enjoying myself so much that I had walked for four hours! It was after midnight! No cell phone, no track of time whatsoever. My friend and I were talking and walking so fast that we covered about 12 miles!  She came home to a panicked husband, too. We still laugh about that, and we are still close friends, thanks to those days. Try reaching out to moms who live close to you. Sometimes you need some face to face contact with a mom who understands what you are going through. Best of luck to you!

Hi Deirdre,

your reply really cheered me up and made me read many of your posts. Wow, u truly are a wonderful person with a positive attitude.

I was too a positive thinker, always happy, cheerful until month and half b4 (b4 my 6 week old baby was born). Somehow, i feel so very low nowadays. I long to being me, my old self.

I am trying my best to help myself ( though i dont visit any of my frds (its just over the phone) as we moved to a new place abt 3 mths ago and we hardly know anyone out here)

anyways, keep posting happy messages...thanks...

 

Hey Neesh,

Welcome to mommytalk.  It's good that you're reaching out for help.  I had a difficult time after my daughter was born.  It was tough going from working full time to staying at home.  I STILL miss the regular adult interaction and my girl is over a year old.  Take the advice to stay busy.  It does make a ton of difference.  Also, if you're feeling that low compared to how you were before you had your child, you may want to talk to your doctor about postpartum depression.  There's a fine line between the regular ''baby blues" and depression.  Do whatever you need to do to get through this.  And remember, your little angel is worth it all in the end.